Self-Help

June 22, 2023

Grief is Connective Tissue

Grief is Separation Grief is the product of loss and separation. We experience loneliness in our deepest places and even intangibly as we look to the […]
June 30, 2021
How Do We Transition Out of Grief?

How Do We Transition Out of Grief?

Last month I wrote about how “resurrection doesn’t mean reversal” (quoting the fabulous Nadia Bolz-Weber). It occurs to me that the navigation of re-entry that we […]
May 26, 2021
Grief and the Myth of "Back to Normal"

Grief and the Myth of “Back to Normal”

Myth of “Back to Normal” after COVID We keep talking about “back to normal” and it sounds so wonderful. I so badly want to see and […]
October 21, 2020
Sad Holidays 101: Creating Boundaries for Yourself and Your Grief

Sad Holidays 101: Creating Boundaries for Yourself and Your Grief

The holidays are always stressful. Always. But, that stress generally pays off with special gatherings, joyful present giving and tasty food. But when you are grieving […]
September 16, 2020
Why You Should Cry Today: Rui-katsu & the Tear Teacher

Why You Should Cry Today: Rui-katsu & the Tear Teacher

This week my husband sent me a short video produced by the BBC entitled, “The man teaching Japan to cry.” I had goosebumps just a few […]
January 23, 2019
Gently "Tidying Up" After a Death: Using the KonMari Method

Gently “Tidying Up” After a Death: Using the KonMari Method

Perhaps you’ve seen the new show on Netflix, Tidying Up or you’ve heard of Marie Kondo and her philosophy of how to go through your home deciding […]
May 19, 2016
Forget About Closure: A New Way to Look at Grief

Forget About Closure: A New Way to Look at Grief

The word “closure” is a tricky and usually misused word. Taken from it’s Latin root “clausura,” literally meaning “to close,” the word is often used to signify what […]
February 3, 2016
How Long Does Grief Last? The Surprising Answer

How Long Does Grief Last? The Surprising Answer

We all want to know how long something terrible is going to last, knowing gives us a sense of control over the unknown and comforts us […]
October 21, 2015
A Crash Course in Listening: 3 Do’s and Don’ts

A Crash Course in Listening: 3 Do’s and Don’ts

One of the biggest concerns people have when they encounter a bereaved individual isn’t (strangely enough) how the bereaved person is doing, but “what do I say to […]