Stephen T. O’Hare

Stephen T. O’Hare

December 21, 1928 - December 30, 2015

Stephen T. O’Hare

December 21, 1928 - December 30, 2015


Stephen Thomas O’Hare entered the pearly gates on December 30th after battling lung cancer for the past year. He is survived by his one sister, Trude O’Hare Jones, who resides in Palo Alto, CA.

Steve was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York and was the youngest of seven children. After graduating from St. John’s University in NY, Steve married Phyllis D’Angelo (his wife of almost 50 years) and moved to Palo Alto, CA where he earned his Masters in English from Stanford University. He then decided to move South and joined Pacific Life Insurance in Los Angeles and then Newport Beach where he worked for over forty years.

He leaves behind his twin daughters, Allycyn O’Hare Bennett (Tom) and Elizabeth O’Hare Stevens (Jim) and his adopted nephew, Gregg Cuthbertson. Steve loved his kids and grandkids (Corbin, Colby, Connor, Cassidy, Kyle, Brooke and Carli) and his home in Laguna Beach where he could take in views of the ocean. He loved playing golf and poker with ‘PM Buddies’ and also had a fondness for his golden retriever ‘Cooper’ who came to his rescue a couple of times when he battled his illness.

Steve’s quick Irish wit, genuine kindness, classy style and business acumen will be missed by all.

A celebration of his life will take place on January 6th with a rosary at O’Connor Mortuary at 4 pm followed by a funeral mass at St. Thomas More in Irvine on January 7th at 12 noon.

Steve enjoyed helping the Catholic Worker in Santa Ana and encouraged people to give of their time and resources freely. Anyone interested in donating or learning more about this organization can go to:

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6 responses to Stephen T. O’Hare

  1. judy slack says:

    Ally and Elizabeth-
    We have so many great memories with your Dad and Mom at the Dana Point house on the 4th of July and at Christmas time! Then there was the awesome Palm Desert house, followed by the Palm Desert condo! He spoiled all of us! Steve was generous, classy, smart as a whip, kind, and oh, how he loved his family!!! You girls made him so proud! And now he is with Our Lord in a better place.
    Rest in peace, Steve.

    With love and gratitude,
    Judy and Bill Slack

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  3. We knew Steve as “Tom,” his boyhood nickname going back to the O’Hare family’s early days in Brooklyn. Though the youngest of seven children, Tom’s strength, smarts and generosity made him the natural patriarch for Toot and the five girls and two brothers as everyone grew up, some making their way to California and others staying on the East Coast.

    Tom and Phyllis spent a wonderful stretch of time with his sister Trude and her husband Bob while they were both young couples and just getting started in life in Palo Alto while Tom attended Stanford. That love and connection only seasoned with time and age as Trude and her “Lil’ Bro” continued to be the best of friends with their love of all things Ireland, memories of Flatbush and Bay Ridge, a shared gift of gab and appreciation for delivering brilliant one liners. Tom and Trude’s love was never stronger than when they had their last visit just days before his passing.

    Tom, you are forever in our hearts and you live on through your beautiful daughters and grandchildren and all the people you reached with such a positive and caring touch.

    We thank you for a lifetime of love, laughter and loyalty as a brother, uncle and friend.

    May the road rise to meet you, our dear Irish lad.

    Trude and the Jones Family

  4. I can’t begin to tell you how bad I feel about not being able to come for the services. Tom, we always called him Tom (that’s what my mother, Marie, always called him) will always hold a very special place in my family’s heart. I remember when I was young and we lived on Long Island in New York we would take the train and subway to visit him when he lived in Brooklyn. I can remember going to my first baseball game to see the Dodgers at Ebbets Field. When we moved to California and he lived in Inglewood he would take my brother and I to Dodgers and Lakers games. He was a lifetime Dodger fan (he does remind you a lot of Vin Scully) and a big Laker fan. He was very close to my mother and we saw he and Phyllis and the twins all the time. He was there for us when my mother passed away and even more when my dad died by taking in Gregg as part of his family and raising as one of his own children. As I got older and had my own family I didn’t get to see him as much as I would have liked to, but I was able to get to California last month and spend some quality time with him. I wish I could be there to share remembrances with all of you. Please know that I will miss him almost as much as my on father.

    Ed and Vicki Cuthbertson

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