Parviz Allahyari Tafreshi
September 23, 1945 - March 31, 2008
- Share:
Parviz Allahyari Tafreshi
September 23, 1945 - March 31, 2008
Obituary
Parviz Tafreshi was a beautiful man. His kindness, patience, sense of humor, and ingenuity made him one of a kind. As a husband to Farie, his unconditional love made every moment of her life a precious gift. As a father to Shawn, he was a mentor, passing his wisdom and kindness with a simple loving hug, and his unforgettable laughter.
He taught everyone who met him what was truly important in this brief life we all live. The simplest things most people take for granted, he embraced and treasured. He fought unimaginable health crises with dignity and a smile. He fought so very hard, for so very long, not for himself, but for his wife, son, and new-found daughter, Bahar. He danced at Shawn and Bahar’s wedding last year and proclaimed it to be the happiest day of his life. His family and friends meant everything to him.
Parviz loved hunting dove and quail, gardening, creating works of unique art, bird watching, cooking, and fixing anything and I mean anything that was broken. He was a technical wizard, who could create a phenomenal work of art from the earth, using nothing but his hands. He believed in the wondrous intricacies of the natural world, embracing its beauty whenever he could. His spirit is alive today in the garden he created. His vibrant energy lives on in the hearts of all who loved him.
If you are reading this, you know that he was a magnificent story teller. He remembered details of his childhood as if it happened yesterday. He never forgot someone he had met. As a result, we will be informally telling stories at his memorial. Before I go on, I must state quite honestly that he did not like the darkness and bleakness of funerals. He wanted his life to be celebrated by his friends and family wearing white or vibrant colors, anything other than black.
For the memorial service, please think of a story up to 5 minutes, that captures the human being he was. All of you will be asked to come to a podium and speak. Parviz wanted family and friends to celebrate his passing with storytelling, and with colors. The best thing you can do in his memory is to create laughter at his memorial, just like he created laughter in our hearts.
I love you with all my heart,
Shawn Tafreshi -proud son
MEMORIAL SERVICE
El Toro Memorial Park
25751 Trabuco Rd., Lake Forest, CA 92630
949951-8244
Saturday April 5, 2008, 11:00am – 1:30pm
The Park will be on your right hand side. Once you enter, look to your right on a small field of grass. You will see a tent. That is where the memorial will be held. Park your car anywhere you can.
RECEPTION
4 Seasons Restaurant Formerly Darband
14210 Culver Dr., Irvine, CA 92604
3:00pm-5:00pm *More stories will be shared
FLOWERS
In lieu of flowers, my father would prefer an alternative. For a decade, Parviz and Farie have helped support Moloud Sarlak, a girl living in Poverty in Khuzestan, Iran. She is one of 7 children who lost their father far too soon. If you are inclined, you may donate cash or a check to cash of any amount. Farie and Shawn will guarantee that every penny is donated in Parviz’s honor.
63 responses to Parviz Allahyari Tafreshi
Massood Nazemi says:
April 4, 2008
Parviz was the only true friend that I made in this country in the last three decades; all my other friends I have known from high school days. He and I shared so many characters– most notably that we fix things! Our wives were pregnant with their children at the same time. He used the beautiful Heisler Park in Laguna Beach on Friday evenings and always thanked me for paying our city taxes to keep the park beautiful for his gatherings. Ironically, the Park has been closed for some time now for repairs, maybe because Parviz has not been able to attend the park in recent times. I will light a candle on a Friday evening at Parviz’s favourite spot upon reopening of the park.
A great void of smiles and laughter has been created in our lives Judy and I. I don’t know how and when this feeling of emptiness will leave us, if ever. However, knowing him, he would not want us to mourn. He would want us to laugh. After all, he provided so much laughter for us throughout all these years.
So, my dear Parviz: Do your tricks up there in Heaven, make them laugh; and if we are lucky enough to join you and not in the other hot place then we shall laugh together again.
Massood Nazemi
Mehran says:
April 4, 2008
No he did not believe in paradise nor he was scared of hell.
No he wasn’t who he was because of the fear of punishments or future rewards.
He was beyond all of that he was better than all of that. To me he was a symbol of positivity, compassion and integrity in human kind, he was unique in so many different ways.
Ferie azizam, your love for each other is nothing short of a fairytale, thank you both for showing us the true meaning of love and selflessness.
Parshawn azizam, you are the proof of that love by being who you are, your ability to love is so constantly present in the way you look at your dear wife Bahar azizam who he loved so much just like the daughter he never had, so the love story can continue on for generations.
I miss him so much
Mehran
Nancy Khan says:
April 4, 2008
Parviz,
You have obviously “lightened up” the lives of many people! I remember when Farie first knew that you were coming to the United States…excitement, wonder, love and joy were in the air. Your arrival was the beginning of a “storybook” journey.
There were the chapters in the early days…meeting Farie’s friends…joining us for cards and monopoly. Going for a walk and not returning because you entered the wrong building that looked just like the one you left! We found you sitting outside of the right door in the wrong building waiting for us to open the door. You thought we were playing games and not letting you in. We enjoyed laughing with you about this when we visited you last.
Some chapters I missed since we moved to Florida and had to enjoy your company on occasional visits…these were always the hightlight of our California trips. You always welcomed Masood and I as if we were family!
The biggest chapter in your book would certainly be “FAMILY”. You deserve the title of Outstanding Husband and Father. Your pride in both Farie and Shawn & Brook was so evident. The happiness that radiates in them is a tribute to you. I am sure that your courageness during all of your challenges will help them get through these tough times of missing you!
Obviously, “FRIENDS”, would follow closely behind family! You will not be forgotten as we can see that you live in the hearts of many! I am honored to have been your friend!
We regret that we cannot be present for your celebration! I see that YOU were making the plans! We will make plans to see Farie, Shawn and Brook soon…we will send you a messge so you can listen in when we get that chance to visit…we will remember ALL the good times, the fun and laughter, the talks and the friendships we shared!
The final chapter of your book came to an end…much too soon! I’m sure it was in a “master plan” that perhaps we cannot understand. Heaven will be a better place…there will be more smiles, more fun, and an additional caring person. Watch out up there…my mother enjoyed a good time, tricks and humor like you…you and Farie were special to her…she will be looking you up!
Your Florida friends,
Nancy and Masood
Nooshin, Parviz, Neda, and Raana Assadi says:
April 4, 2008
Dearest Farie, Shawn, and Bahar,
Words cannot describe how devastated and sorry we are for the loss of our beloved Parviz. His sense of humor, his kindness, and warmth, truly made him one of a kind. When you were around him, he made you feel like you were the most important person there.
It was an honor knowing him as a friend and a human being. His love and affection for his family and friends made him so special. Everyone that knew him will miss him terribly. We all loved him for who he was.
I remember someone once said, “Who doesn’t love Parviz?” Throughout his journey in his life, with all of the challenges he was facing, he touched everyone’s soul that were lucky enough to pass his path.
We will truly miss him, but his love and memory will be with us always. You were blessed to have such a wonderful man as your husband, father, and father-in-law in your life, and we were all blessed as well to have him as a friend. May his legacy be carried by all of you, and hopefully soon, by his grandchildren.
He will always be in our hearts. Rest in peace dear Parviz.
Love always,
Nooshin & Parviz
Neda & Raana Assadi
Noushin Hatami-Pietraszuk says:
April 4, 2008
I have known Parviz since I was a little girl. I will always remember him as a mild tempered man and always laughing. Although through the years I saw him and his family on and off, I have fond memories of our families being friends. I have very good memories of taking care of his son Shawn and him following me around when he was one years old calling after me “noo noo.” A loss of and loved one is the hardest thing we as people have to go through, I wish his wife, son and daughter-in-law my deepest condolence and I pray for them.