Nicholas Ralph Bottini

Nicholas Ralph Bottini

June 02, 1961 - February 08, 2021
Mission Viejo California

Nicholas Ralph Bottini

June 02, 1961 - February 08, 2021
Mission Viejo California


Sadly, on Monday February 8, 2021, Nick Bottini’s life of love and laughter and adventure ended at the age of 59.

There is no better way to say it but that Nick loved life and he loved people. There is no one who met Nick, with his warm, good-natured personality and infectious laugh, who within 5 minutes did not feel like they were a cherished friend.  It did not matter if you were the bartender or a wealthy client, Nick valued you. He did not judge people, he enjoyed them. And this was a trait he inherited from his father, Nick, who also died far too young.

Nick loved that he grew up carefree and cared for in Rome NY, with his parents, Nick and Gayle Bottini, and partners in crimes and misdemeanors thru the 70s, his brother Kevin, along with his friends Vinny and Stemmy.

And Nick loved his family, his daughters, Marissa and Julia, who gave him great joy and pride, his “adopted sons,” Ryan and Kyle, his mother Gayle and his “adopted mother-in-law” Vivian, his brother Kevin and his family, Tina, Topher, Steve, Drew and Sarah. He was so thankful that he and Marissa got to share these past several years together in California.

Nick loved to travel – China, Hong Kong, Hawaii, Italy, Israel, Toronto, Vegas, Dallas, Key West, Puerto Rico, Philly, etc.  And he loved his work, he was greatly admired and appreciated for his dedication and expertise as a CPA.  Nick especially loved his social life, going to great restaurants or just hanging at the bar with friends.  He loved golf and Angel’s baseball games and Ducks hockey games.  He loved music; from Elvis and Sinatra to the Allman Brothers and Chuck Mangione, but he especially loved the Grateful Dead.  Nick was a veteran of many Dead shows, including one of the last shows just weeks before Jerry Garcia’s death, with brother Kevin.

Nick truly loved his life in California.  And most of all, he loved that he could share it with the woman that he so loved, Deina.  “Patio nights” brought his love of people and music together on those California nights.

Nick just loved life, and he lived it large and full.  He made the lives of all who knew him richer and fuller too. Nick would want each of us to live as boldly and passionately as he did.

Because of the pandemic, but also because Nick has family and friends spread across this country, services will be held virtually on Tues Feb. 16, at 2pm PST.  All are invited to join this web service at

Memorial donations can be made to Who We Are – The Autism Community in Action (TACA) (

Condolences and memories can be posted to O’Connor Mortuary.

RIP Nick – Grateful Dead – We Bid You Goodnight – Bing video


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13 responses to Nicholas Ralph Bottini

  1. Deina, Melissa, and Rachel,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Nick was a good man with a big heart, and the obituary captures his spirit well.

    I had the pleasure to work with Nick at the Ontario International Airport, and I met Nick not long after he came to the Airport. And while his accounting knowledge ran deep, his familiarity with airport finance did less so. As a result, I spent many days with Nick – working on budgets before the fiscal year began and working on annual reconciliations after the year ended. And together, the two of us got through it.

    And while the work brought us together, I particularly enjoyed our lunches. We’d go to Zendejas or another of Nick’s favorites. We’d ride over together in Nick’s car. And whether in the car or at lunch, we’d talk more about life than work. Sometimes it was baseball. Sometimes it was hockey. Sometimes it was family. But it was always like I’d known him forever. And his laughter will be missed!

    My thoughts and prayers are with you,

    Paul Bintinger

    1. Marissa and Julia,

      I sincerely apologize for the error in your names and any pain it may have caused.


  2. Therese Andrews

  3. I was blessed to attend the virtual memorial service for Nick yesterday afternoon and thank you to the family and all who had a part in making this day so special in his honor. Thank you also to Pastor Cornwell for his words of wisdom and the symbolism of the 5 candles. (Grief, Courage, Memories, Love and God’s presence.
    I had the privilege to meet Nick when I worked at Ontario International Airport. His office was near mine right when you exited the elevator and the adding machine tape was always very very long. Nick was always hard at work crunching numbers and making a difference yet at the same time stopped to listen. He always had a smile and a kind word for his colleagues. He welcomed a tour of the airport and our non-profit organization of airport volunteers when he first came to ONT. His support for the organization was so wonderful. He loved hearing the fun stories of how the volunteers made a difference in the lives of travelers.
    Although my time knowing Nick was brief in the journey of life, it was truly a privilege to have known him. I have attended funerals and not cried. I cried yesterday. He will be missed.

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