I’ve been reflecting on the upcoming months as I begin to plan my holidays around my parents and my in-laws, pray my brother can make it to each gathering, consider menu options & ponder what gifts to give. I love buying presents for people, love surprising them with a thoughtful piece of evidence that demonstrates my love & appreciation of them.
My husband and I have struggled to get by these first 3 years of our marriage as the economy fell apart around us and we saw our hours take cuts while everything else seemed to soar in price. I like so many others this year, will be giving in an extra thoughtful and budgeted way.
As I sat pathetically lamenting how little I have to give this year I remembered some posts I had seen on Facebook, people ascribing a different letter of the alphabet to each day and listing something they are thankful for that began with that letter.
Example: November 13th, 13th letter of the alphabet = M
Today I am thankful for the Memories I have of my childhood, my grandfather, my family, and the new ones my husband and I are making.
Before we enter into this season of giving gifts to others, we have a wonderful opportunity to pause in thankfulness this Thanksgiving. I’ve found that as I’ve considered how much I already have it has shrunken down my own Christmas list of wants. I have a great deal that I call my own and recalling my blessings as I walk into Target or The GAP where everything seems to have my name written on it, I’ve realized I have a bit of an easier time saying “no” (of course, I’ve also stopped going to GAP to make saying “no” much easier).
I guess my point is that the “Thanks” comes before, and very importantly before, the “Giving” and that’s a really good thing.
I want to invite you to take some time to write out a list of the things you are thankful for. If you don’t like doing that, just take a few minutes to wander about your living place and take count of all the things you have and all the memories attached to them. This is not an exercise designed to invoke guilt, just thankfulness. We will always want things, either because they are beautiful or cool, it doesn’t matter – I don’t want you to feel guilty about wanting. But I think we can get wrapped up in the idea of “getting” and can even be consumed by it. I know I have. But when thankfulness is on our hearts, in our eyes as we look on our loved ones & surroundings, well, it makes us far less vulnerable to the “getting” bug.
So, my encouragement to you is to take some time – whether it be each day leading up to Thanksgiving, a Facebook post, Sunday morning devotion, or your one quiet evening this week – take some time to be thankful for where you live, what you have, the moments of joy you’ve had this month, a true friend, or a loving God. Make it a simple list; I took a walk in a lovely park today with my husband and my sweet dog, Coco. She won’t be around much longer, this may be our last winter, and I’m just grateful to give her moments like that & share them with my husband.
I’m thankful to have Mornings where Coco wakes me up. This happened just this weekend & I wish you could see how crazily she wagged her tail!
Take time now to make your Christmas that much richer. I guarantee you, there is no gift that can be wrapped in paper that will bring you the true happiness you seek.
You know that’s true. You may be happy to get it, enjoy it, but that inner-happiness, that joy that we’re all chasing, that doesn’t come from a pricey gift, it comes from a deep inner-satisfaction, a sense of gratification and a desire to bless others as you have been blessed.
I didn’t want us to wait until Christmas to have that talk about the true spirit of giving, it should start now when we have an opportunity to be grateful.
So, what are you grateful for today? Begin now in practicing some thankfulness! If you’re having a hard time narrowing it down try sticking to the letter “M,” (M for Molly??) it helps ; )
Thankfulness is a state of mind. The older I get, the simpler the reasons for my gratitude. When I choose not to seek my own will or desires in a situation, even the holidays, I find that I have greater appreciation for the simple pleasures of family and love and health and being together, than what can be wrapped up with a bow.
Like you, we have an older dog who has lived long beyond what we thought she would with her fragile scary start in life. We feel like we are having borrowed time with her each year she hangs in there. Her name is also Molly. So let me say, I am thankful for two Mollys. Our precious little runt of a cocker spaniel and for you, your friendship and your encouragement to our blog team. I am also thankful for my husband and his contributions to our Marriage of 46 years. I am thankful for a lot of Memories, good and bad, and especially of those of my two brothers and brother in law who have gone to be with the Lord. I am thankful for the truth, which may encourage you and Bryce: Little becomes Much, when God is in it. So there’s a few “M”‘s from My perspective.
How wonderful that you have 2 Molly’s! Thank you so much for your kind words and your wonderful list of blessings that you are thankful for. I feel similarly to you about my dog Coco who had that stroke earlier this year. I just love that dog and I’m so grateful to still get to come home to her silly ways and her wagging tail that always makes me smile. I’m glad you have a dog-friend like me that God has given you so much time with.
I agree about your “state of mind” statement as well. Chuck’s story above really backs that up and it’s something that will challenge me in the future.
Thank you so much for reading, responding, and bringing joy to me as I read your post.
I’m thankful for YOU!
Thanks for your insight and the blessings you allow us to see in front of us. It is always hard to see the forest through the trees, especially in this corner of the blue ball. I always feel so uplifted when I pause and give thanks and feel sorry for myself or sad when I do not. I love your quote”If only I had” we always think it is the destination that will bring us happiness but it is the journey and our own mindset. I love the story of the elderly woman who after decades has to finally move into an assisted living facility. The manager is taking her to her new room and hopefully suggests she will like it even though it is not her family home. She turns to him in the elevator and proclaims “I love it” He looks at her and says “but, you have not even seen it yet.” She smiles and says I do not have to, whether I love it or not has nothing to do with the size of the room or where the sofa is, it has to do with me and my attitude. I have created an internal mantra for myself to use when I’m able to pause or even meditate (I do not do daily, which I should) this helps me refocus to the positive…
“I am Strong, I am at Peace, I am One with all”
I’ve never heard that story before but wow, what a great illustration of how we can practice not only gratefulness but contentment and joy with others on a daily basis. An attitude like that is amazing and I have to admit, I would struggle to feel the same as she does.
I think it’s also important that we don’t feel guilt when we don’t take time to be thankful, why waste the energy that way? Simplify it by being thankful that you remembered to be thankful! I like to eliminate any unnecessary, self-imposed guilt and I think that’s what that is. Although, I do understand the sorrow that can follow you around when we don’t take the time to adjust our perspectives and reflect on our bounteous blessings.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us & making this post that much richer.
15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.
16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.
17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Thank you for your kind and cherished thoughts, Molly. I am thankful for you beyond measure and deeply grateful that I have had the blessing of sharing life with you these last 3 years. Though we are materially poor, we are richly and graciously blessed in so many immaterial ways–“for that which is seen is transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” (2 Cor 4:18)
I loved your thoughts on what true satisfaction is. I leave you with this final piece of wisdom from the wisest man to walk this earth:
What gain has the worker from his toil? I have seen the business that God has given to the children of man to be busy with. He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end. I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live; also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil-this is God’s gift to man. (Ecclesiastes 3:9-13)
Love you sweetie! I’m so proud of you.
Wow! This perfectly sums up one of the big lessons God has been teaching me these last few months, that He wants my happiness and wants me to live a joy-filled life. Bryce, I love how often you shine God’s word upon me & most especially how patient you are with my struggle to grasp and understand these lofty and beautiful meanings. Thank you for this passage from Ecclesiastes, it will be something I dwell on for some time. Maybe even Memorize?
What a deep blessing you are to me & have always been & I suspect, will always be. Thank you for walking this path with me & matching my pace as our eyes and feet are turned down a path of reliance & thankfulness, away from the paths of accomplishment & independence that we intended to walk.
I love you and am thankful for MY MAN!
We all have so much to be thankful for and it’s not just this time of the year. But I am so grateful that we do celebrate Thanksgiving. It seems to me that about this time, in the pace of the year, I need to stop and realize that the year is coming to an end and how did I really show my gratitude during this year for all that I have and how wonderful God has been to me. Mostly I have to say I am thankful for the people that are in my life and those that continue to walk through my life through my work and my Ministry. I love reading your Blog and value all of you at O’Connor. Wishing you all are great Thanksgiving.
Yes, yes! I love your perspective on looking back over the year behind us to see how we did. Every time I pause to have moments like these I only realize that I need more of them. These years seem to just be whizzing by but I think if we can pause more frequently it would even make our reflection on the year a less jumbled mess (not that yours is, but mine most certainly is!). I’m going to practice your idea this week & look back over this year & see what I can apply to 2013 & even just the rest of 2012.
I’m blessed to read I have another sister in Christ in you, that you are passionate about your Ministry (good job with the M words!), and that you find meaning & truth here.
Thanks so much for being a part of this blog & sharing your heart with me. What a blessing you are!
I have noticed many of my friends on Facebook posting what they are thankful for each day in November.
We do become so rushed and preoccupied that we forget to focus on the true joy that can be gained from the holidays. Thank you for this reminder.
I am thankful that I get another Thanksgiving with Granny and I am thankful for YOU! I appreciate our blog brainstorming and fun conversations so much!
You are such a good friend. I’m grateful for you in that, for your dedication to your grandmother & the example you are to all people caring for elderly relatives. I love talking with you, seeing more and more each time how similar we are, and rejoicing in the fact that we really are related as sisters in our loving Jesus.
Thanks for all you do to make this blog great, your patience with me especially!
Hope you have a blessed Thanksgiving this year!