Mother’s Day without Mom, it changes everything.
What do you do?
How do you “celebrate” the day?
It is my mom’s first Mother’s Day without her mom. None of the usual, sweet birthday cards came from my grandma last month when we celebrated 3 family birthdays. Since she died a few months ago, small things have changed in my world, but much bigger things have changed in my mom’s world.
Talking to my mom the other day she said, “I’m just really missing her. I feel like I should call her because I haven’t in a while – and then I remember. But it’s okay.”
“It’s okay.” To some extent, it is okay. My grandmother died in her late 80’s after a long life; she loved us, we loved her, and she was tired of being a widow. We all feel relieved that she’s free of her hurting body and at rest with her family before her.
It’s okay to miss her, too. She is worth missing.
If you’re facing another or a first Mother’s Day without your mom, I want to tell you I am so sorry. Mom’s are precious to us no matter what the relationship looks like – a Mom is irreplaceable.
Find some time to create a sacred moment, a moment that honors your Mom and the type of relationship you had with her. Since all of our bonds with others are so unique, we probably all have something specifically special between us and our moms – how wonderful.
Bake a cake. Watch Steel Magnolias. Put your feet in the pool. Smoke a cigar.
Make time for a sacred moment with your mom, she’ll love it.
And have a meaningful Mother’s Day.