Don’t Get “Webbed”: Halloween, Pumpkins and Spiders!

Don’t Get “Webbed”: Halloween

I love October.  Autumn is beginning to settle in.  My wife and I celebrate our wedding anniversary and her birthday.  We take our fall vacation.  We decorate for Halloween and my wife carves a few pumpkins.  Not ordinary pumpkin faces, but creative, scary pumpkin faces.  She definitely has a talent for pumpkin carving.

At our house, October is also spider month.  We usually have six or seven major webs strategically built around our walkway stairs, deck and landscaping.  And this year, our garden spiders are BIG!

My wife doesn’t appreciate the webs.  They get in her way and always at the most inopportune time.  When my oldest daughter visits, she will not come to our front door without first calling me from her car begging for me to meet her in the driveway and then escorting her to the front door.  My youngest daughter thinks spiders (in their webs) are cool. We read “Charlotte’s Web” a few times when she was a girl and I believe it changed her position on spiders.

I used to be afraid of spiders.  I remember watching an old episode of Rod Serling’s “Night Gallery” when I was a boy.  It was the episode where the woman flushed the spider down the drain and it would come back larger each time until it was a giant spider in the room.  Scary! Creepy!  From that point on, I would do my best to always avoid spiders.  Yet, how could something so small and purposeful cause so many people so much anxiety and fear?

In western societies as many as 55% of females and 18% of males

are estimated to experience arachnophobia.

Why are we afraid of spiders?  Well, for my wife, they are just plain creepy.  I have an associate at the mortuary who is so terrified by spiders that she nears fainting just at the mention of the word. We never joke about spiders with her. We’re afraid we’ll literally scare her to death! I have a friend who grew up thinking that all spiders are poisonous. To clarify,they’re not.Movies have portrayed spiders in so many scary ways that we all probably expect to run into a giant spider in any cave, jungle or forest that we might explore.

Fear of spiders is considered a “specific phobia.” “Specific phobias” are considered anxiety disorders; about 7 percent of all people have this kind of phobia.

I got over my fear of spiders by becoming fascinated by their web-making abilities and their usefulness as bug-catchers.  I can stand and watch a spider spin its web without any anxiety or fear.  Over the past ten or so years, I have looked forward to our different species of garden spiders coming out to find a place to build their webs.

Right now, we have one who is living in our bamboo forest.  Another has a large web stretching from our palm tree to the hedge by our wall.  A big, bulbous spider has its web attached from the corner of the roof to the BBQ on the deck.  I do have a new-comer to the neighborhood who built an impressive web a third of the way across our deck.  Per my wife’s request, I relocated that spider to a nice area in our front landscaping near our large Plumeria.  It greets me every morning as I walk down to the driveway to my car.

So, here it is, October.  The season of spooky Halloween stories.  Trick-or treaters dressed as witches and princesses; pirates and superheroes.  Black cats and full moons.  Mummies and vampires…and spiders.

I don’t fear my spiders anymore.  I actually like having them around.  They catch a lot of bugs and flying insects that might have made it into the house.  They spin majestic webs that really do shine in the full moons light.  I guess they’ve become more than spiders to me.  They are my little Halloween pets.

Happy Halloween!

Are you still afraid of spiders?   If not, how did you get over the fear?

Molly Keating
Molly Keating
Molly grew up in and around funeral homes her entire life. In 2009 she began working for O'Connor Mortuary and found a bridge between her passion for writing and her interest in grief and bereavement. In 2016 she earned Certification in the field of Thanatology, the study of Death, Dying and Bereavement. She is honored to be able to write about these taboo topics with knowledge, compassion, and a unique perspective.


  1. Kari Leslie says:

    Love this blog!! So light and reflective of who you are. A nice glimpse into your creepy spider filled home…LOL!

  2. amy says:


    I marvel going out in the morning to see what type of web my spider friends have made for me overnight. It is just amazing to me how such a small thing can make such a beautiful thing.
    Thanks for sharing your story and being so good to the spider friends.


  3. Patricia Kolstad says:

    Hey Chris . . . I don’t agree with you when it comes to “not hating spiders” any more. I hate them with a passion!

    They are creepy looking and I only know that the black widow is really a beast! I don’t like little spiders and I really don’t like big ones. I use to have my ex-husband kill the ones I found in the house. Now that I live by myself, it’s all up to me . . . so I’ve become a fearless spider destroyer!

    That’s all I want to say about spiders . . . it makes me feel icky just writing about them!

    Thanks for giving me the chills . . .


  4. Hi Chris –

    I think spiders are kinda weird yet kinda cool at the sometime. If they keep their distance they can stay alive, if they jump me, they are more than likely dead. If they are just crawling around in my house I will try and escort them outdoors, yet once again if they resist they may not make it. I love bees, frogs, and monkeys!

    • Christopher Iverson says:


      You can find a very Zen-like quiet watching a spider spin it’s web. But we will never get comfortable with a spider crawling on our bodies. Peace Always! Chris

  5. Lori says:

    I agree that spider webs are beautiful. I wish we could work out a deal that they spin them a little higher so I do not consistently walk through them when I walk the dogs in the morning.
    Maybe you should start going home at lunch to care for your little pets.
    I appreciate your love for all of God’s creatures.


    • Christopher Iverson says:


      Walking through a web in the morning or evening always comes with the same response…Ahhh! Peace Always, Chris

      • Carrie Bayer says:

        I turn into a kung fu master when I walk thru a web….. It must be hilarious for the person watching me karate-chop my way out of the web. CB

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